About two Sundays ago I was busy to say the least. It started off with me heading to Tania's house in Independencia right after church. She was going to teach me how to make some Peruvian food. And this is coming from a very good cook.
But the day couldn't be as simple as that. During Sunday School second hour I was sitting next to some guy in the ward I hadn't seen before. He would turn to me occasionally and say an English word and I was wondering what he was trying to do. Finally, at one point I leaned over and said in Spanish, "Do you know I speak Spanish?" He replied he did. I didn't think too much of it.
Third hour though was Sharing Time in Primary. There is this one kid who is literally the terror of primary. Like, just simply having him not there you notice a huge difference. Anyway, he was being his usual hyper self, so I finally just took him outside to let him run around. While I was out there the guy who had tried to speak English to me came out and just started peppering me with questions.
I mean at first I wasn't catching on till I realized he was interested in me. Things like, where was I from, why was I here, was I married, did I have kids, etc. Looking back later I realized he should have been in Elder's Quorum.
Then, on my way to Tania's I saw a guy from the barrio that I had met when I initially came down. I only knew him by name and face, but he had been around the past 4 months, so I figured he was harmless. He was on the same route I was to visit his dad. We started talking (because isn't that what you do when you run into somebody from your ward?) and before I knew it it was the same routine again. He was asking me where I was from, how old I was, did I have kids, had I been married before, etc. I mean, within 15 min he's offering to take me places and inviting me out to lunch. We got to the stop he was supposed to get off at and he decided he would "accompany" me all the way to where I needed to get off at.
Of all the Sundays for Tania's husband to be late picking me up. Tania's in a part of town where if her or her husband don't arrive, I get back on the bus and head back. So here I was, stuck at the station, which wouldn't usually be a problem, except I've got this guy from my barrio who is bugging me to go out with him.
Tania's husband finally arrived and I ran off without giving the guy a second glance. I texted Johel whining about it later and his response? Oh just come over for Family Home Evening tomorrow and we can discuss it.
Johel was, of course, dying to hear what had happened. Which guys, what did they do, etc. He said after I explained it all that really, it was just Peruvian culture and that's how the men are. But he also said if I was his daughter he would not want me to be with either one of them. I guess the one who bugged me during the third hour drifts in and out of activity and is also 20 years older. The other he said has actually asked other girls in the barrio out and is known to be very forward. Yeah, I have to say, being so forward with someone after knowing them for only a few minutes is a real turnoff.
The problem is, I've just gotten to the point when I run into men on the street I just tell them I'm married. I have a fake name I give them and everything. But if they are in my barrio I can't pull that scheme. I talked with Erin about it though and she says she gets hit on all the time also. She says sometimes she wears headphones even though she's not playing anything and just acts like she can't hear the men.
I'm becoming less nice though and now just make it apparent to some guys the answer is no and I am not interested.
My sister Deborah made the comment though when I spoke to her later that night that Johel takes very good care of me. He really does.
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